I am slowly learning that caring less actually makes one happier. By not involving myself in other ppl's problems and lives I know I can be more carefree. I just find it so difficult to say no when people ask for help though. In my mind I believe that if I have the knowledge and the resources to help someone then I will try my best to give them my time. In the end I feel so exhausted and unable to do my own things...plus when they give me feedback that the advice was unhelpful or that they didnt show their appreciation I do get a lil peeved.

For example, since that drama with the couple. I told them I would not speak or get involved in their lives again, and the guy said he would do the same (for all the trouble he has caused me). But then today he calls me to ask if he could borrow my textbook for the exam and photocopy it, I was kinda reluctant but didnt say no cuz I know he will not buy the book and probably fail. But what is it to me? Should I care that he fails, not really... Anyways I agreed to meet him tomorrow at 1130. I know I will not get any appreciation back and I dont want to, cuz of the whole jealous gf thing...

Also I don't want to be responsible for other people's outcome in life, I cannot tell ppl what to study or what career to choose because I dont want to be the one in the end that gets the blame for it not turning out right. I am not a professional career advisor, I can only point you to another who is more qualified. I find people rather you do it, cuz they know you better. But if I'm not competent to advise I dont want to say anything...better a pro. Anyways best to make your own decisions in life so you cant blame others. That's why I hardly ask for help.

Some ppl are just too lazy to find out things and figure out stuff by themselves...it is prob too time consuming or confusing for them. But it is really easy if they just try their research skills and put some energy into making their lives possible.

I just dont want to be an ice queen and not care at all...but I cant care about something and not do anything about it. If I care I would help as much as I can, even till the end. Just so I can be satisfied that this person has found their path and will become successful. I hope to see everyone I care bout become successful and content in the their lives...but helping them achieve that at the moment seems too much of a task for lil me....

I know ppl ask me to care less and stop being 'stepped on' like a door mat...but how do I say no? *SIGH* I think my fren Yo is also in the same situation, I give her advice but why cant I take that advice too. Us, both busy with exams and projects but still say yes to frens who need our help.

I don't think there is much wrong with caring alot about people. People who don't care about others aren't really good friends.. I guess all you can do is try to find a balance.
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