I'm officially on twitter (von-nation)! It has taken me a really long time to decide whether to join another social networking website but I thought I might as well...or then I may just fall behind in the times hehe. I am not too sure how to use it but I guess all I have to do is post what I am doing? Oh man...how boring is that gonna be? I feel sorry for anyone who has to follow what I am doing, because most of the time I'm at home. I don't want to become one of those mothers who just talk constantly about their children, because I know how mundane that can be for the audience who is listening. Your children are the best in your eyes but not everyone else's. I totally get that!

Over the long weekend I caught with my girlfriends over some tapas and cocktails, I have been waiting to catch up with the goss after all the baby stuff. Funnily I admitted to them that I do not feel like a mum even though I have 2 under my belt, I feel like a guardian and a really close friend...I guess cuz I am a young mum and can understand the years of being a youth as I am still living them! But I'm also a person will lay down the law when it comes to teaching them how to be respectful children. Pure Bar in Subiaco is a little, trendy place that people come and relax, enjoy tasty tapas and awesome cocktails. After our dinner at Pure Bar we cruised over to San Churros for some dessert. There we enjoyed a nice cuppa spanish hot chocolate and churros on the side. Honestly to die for! That would have to be my final supper choice!

The girls opened up about their relationships and how they manage to manoeuvre through the bad ones and hang onto the good ones. It's tough out there no doubt... but it is best for a single gal to really enjoy the days of being single before they settle down into a marriage and having kids. Don't get me wrong, I don't wish to change my journey at all. But if I could have built up a career and started investing sooner I would feel much more comfortable, my life would have been set...and then I would not worry about having to rush back to work after maternity leave!

Then there is always the sacrifice...if you work harder as a young single person you won't be investing in a committed relationship, you put off the biological clock etc. When people say 'until I pay off the house', 'until I can travel the world' etc...you may just lose out in the baby race. I can't help but feel that I am not given that chance to advance in my career at work because I am labelled a 'mum'...it's tough for working mothers, we are still so what linked to the stereotype that we don't work hard enough or put in the hours. I returned to DIAC as a full time mum after Sofia was 5 months! I invested myself into the business for 2 years full time, but my mentor failed to invest in me when I fell pregnant again. I can't help but feel...was there a bit of discrimination??? Or was I just someone 'too young, too inexperienced' to be promoted. I'm just ranting now...I believe the employer is still stuck in the dark ages. There are no role models e.g. pregnant EL1s to show that women can have their careers and their kids.

I'm not sure how I came to this point. But hey...it's what I have been thinking all this time and I just needed to get it out. Anyway what's to worry, I'm really enjoying my family now and the career will come one day...if it's not the career then it will be me accomplishing my dream or vocation. I plan not to work for the Big Guy for the rest of my life!

i find twitter boring. so i just stick to facebook.

i have many people asking me why i'm still single and when i'm getting married. sometimes i'm bored with these questions as if there's nothing else to ask me.
» renaye on 2010-10-03 02:19:08

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